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Word of the Year: Despite

I’ve always seen these posts about having a word of the year. What’s it all about? It’s a word you aim to live by for the entire year. This year I’ve decided to join in on the trend and choose a word for 2019.

So, what word did I choose?

without being affected by; in spite of.”

It’s a weird choice, right? Keep Reading and I promise it will all make sense.

There is something about remaining un-wavered despite what you are going through.

Like despite this brick cold snowy weather, I will still try to enjoy my 2-hour commute to work.

I’ve always felt that God wants us to have the kind of faith that remains steadfast even while everything around us seems to be chaotic.

Despite is pushing yourself to get out of bed even when all you want to do is stay in a fetal position and pity yourself.

Despite is getting out and enjoying life even though your doctor gave you an undesirable diagnosis.

Despite is making the commitment to still show love even when the recipients are acting unloveable at the moment. (moms, we know this all too well!)

“I will not let my circumstances determine my outcome.”

It’s funny how we let temporary setbacks rob us of opportunities, experiences, and our joy. Just because things aren’t going the way we want them to right now, we should never lose hope. Sometimes, you’ve got to act like what you’re hoping for has already happened.

“Happiness is not a destination, it’s a choice.”

We need to eliminate the frame of thinking that makes our joy dependent on people, things, etc. That frame of mind places you on an emotional roller coaster that can have a negative effect on your life.

“I’ll be happy when… WHEN WHAT???”

When I get married, I’ll be happy!

When I have kids, I’ll be happy!

When I buy my house, I’ll be happy!

blah, blah, blah and the list goes on…

What if that dream or thing that you’re hoping for isn’t what God has in store for you? Will you just accept to never be happy?

Right now, I’m learning to find my joy DESPITE all of the madness going on around me.

It’s not easy and I know there are times that I’ll probably miss the mark, (hey, I’m human) but because my word of the year is despite, I’ll just get right back up and keep at it.


This month as we celebrate Black History, I think of all the civil rights leaders and icons who were able to achieve greatness despite the challenges they faced on a daily basis. Despite being faced with death, imprisonment, and other hardships, they still marched. They still sat. They still let their voices be heard.

I am sure at times they wondered what they were fighting for. They probably were not happy when they were thrown in prison cells, beaten or degraded BUT, they did not give up. They kept their hope alive despite it all.

Many of them didn’t live to see what they hoped for but their prayers and efforts allow us to live the hope they fought for.

“Many things about tomorrow I don’t seem to understand, but I know who holds tomorrow and I know who holds my hand.”

This old hymn still resonates with me. Yes, I have no clue what will go on tomorrow. Heck, I don’t have a clue what will go on within the next hour. What I do know is that I have a reliable captain steering my ship.

“The anchor holds
Though the ship’s been battered
The anchor holds
Though the sails are torn
I have fallen on my knees as I face the raging seas
The anchor holds in spite of the storm”

My husband sings this song at least once a year in church and it is a powerful reminder that although we sometimes feel overwhelmed by motherhood, work or just life, in general, there is nothing you can’t handle as long as we remember that anchor will hold and we resolve to not let life get you down. It’s a decision that we have to make. God promises a way out if we put our trust in him. So armed with that belief and commitment to staying in the race, I know that in 2019 I will get through anything DESPITE how hard things may seem.

What’s your word of the year? Comment Below!”

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