Alright! I must confess that I finally hit my breaking point this weekend and let out some tears. Had it not been for my list of affirmations, I really don’t think I would have gotten through the day. Sunday morning (Mother’s Day) I had a rough start. I just laid in my bed while everyone was sleeping and literally cried y’all! I cried not because something was wrong, but because I had not allowed myself to grieve or feel anything since this pandemic started.
From the very onset of this lockdown, I went into auto mode and began to do what I do best – serve and protect my family.
How can I make homeschooling work for my daughter? How can I plan a pre-school curriculum for my toddler? What will I cook for breakfast, lunch, and dinner? Do we have enough snacks? What will we do for recess today? How can I get groceries for my parents?
While there is nothing wrong with asking any of these questions, there was one question I was not asking.
When will I have time for ME?
Am I really ok with being a full-time working mom, wife, homeschool teacher, cook, gym coach, spiritual guide, etc?
I never really allowed myself to take in that life as I know it had changed. The freedom I once had to just do what I wanted to is now clouded by concern over the safety of my loved ones. I miss going on adventures with my family. Whether it be the museum, the garden, walking along the beach with my parents – I miss life.
Yes, I am grateful to be alive and in health. Yes, I am grateful that my little unit is safe at home. But, I would be lying if I didn’t say that I missed life as it was prior to Covid-19.
After I shed a few tears and allowed myself the right to grieve, I felt so much better.
Allowing myself to grieve what once was, provided the healing I needed to accept my new reality.– Bonjour rachel
I realized that I needed to change my perspective if I wanted to make my current reality work for me. The first thing I did was schedule at least 30 minutes of me-time. Some days that meant waking up before everyone else, putting on my mask. and heading out the door for a walk.
Other days, I would get in the shower, blast my tunes, and dance my butt off. Just yesterday I had This Girl Is On Fire on repeat and was singing at the top of my lungs. As funny as it sounds, it looked even worse. When I am singing and dancing in the shower, my inner diva comes out and you can’t tell me anything.
Regardless of how I sound or look, that me-time turned everything around. I pampered myself with a sugar scrub and the works. By the time I emerged from the shower, I was a new woman and ready for the craziness waiting for me outside the bathroom.
Me-time may look differently for you, but EVERY Mom needs to have me-time, especially now! Spend time doing something you love! Whether it is reading, writing, blogging, dancing, giving yourself a pedicure or makeover. Doing something for – YOU each day keeps the G-building away.
When Mommy is Happy, EVERYONE is– Bonjour rachel
Another important component of my me-time is self-affirmations. Listen, we all know our kids and spouses love us, but sometimes we need to hear it. However, the reality is we cannot expect our loved ones to shout it from the mountaintop every day. In those times when they are not saying it – You need to affirm yourself.
I have affirmations written down in my journal. Every time I start to feel down I go to my room, close the door, and read my affirmations. I don’t care how many times the little prince bangs on the door, I spend this time encouraging myself. Sometimes I have to read them more than once in order for them to stick, but I read them as many times as I need to until I am able to lift my spirit.
Today, I am sharing 15 of my favorite affirmations for moms. My hope is that they will help you realize how amazing of a human being you really are. You are amazing not because you are a Mom, but because of the strong woman on the inside.
Affirmations for Moms
`Taking care of myself is not selfish. It is necessary for me to be a great mom.
I am doing my best as a mom and that is enough.
I am in charge of how I feel and today I am choosing happiness.
I am more than just a mom.
I assert my right to make a few mistakes.
My children will remember the time we spend together, not what they were given.
I live in the present and I am confident about the future.
I am blessed with an incredible family.
I am at peace with my body and accept it as it is. It was created to do amazing things.
I am free from the need to impress others.
My life is a work in progress.
I have confidence in my skills not just as a mom, but as a woman.
I have the strength to overcome any challenge.
I am not a bad mom. I am good mom simply having a bad day.
My faith in myself is unshakeable.
Affirmations are not just words. They are a powerful vehicle for getting you through each day. Getting into the habit of encouraging myself has helped me get through some rough patches. I speak affirmations into my life as a part of my morning routine. They ensure that I have a great start to my day. They also keep me in check. When I find myself starting to fall off, my affirmations suddenly come to the forefront. Funny how that works!
My recommendation is that you find some great affirmations and jot them down. Whether you write them in a journal or on post-it notes and stick them on your mirror, they should be readily accessible. Before you walk out your bedroom, read them to yourself, breathe in, breathe out, and say a Prayer.
One of my favorite prayers is the Serenity Prayer. It reminds me to slow down and take things one day at a time.
God grant me the serenity– Reinhold Niebuhr
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.
I am not going to act like ME-time and affirmations make the bad days go away, but they do help make them better and that is good enough for me. The goal is to accept that there will be bad days, but intentionally choose not to allow the bad days to steal my joy.
How about you, mommies? Do you have any favorite affirmations or ME-time routines?